“And we impart this in words not taught by human wisdom but taught by the Spirit, interpreting spiritual truths to those who are spiritual. The natural person does not accept the things of the Spirit of God, for they are folly to him, and he is not able to understand them because they are spiritually discerned.”
Is it possible that speaking about "common things" can be hurting your marriage?
That sounds strange since conventional wisdom advises us to connect with our spouse through conversation.
The difference that can change the arc of your marriage is to not just converse with your spouse.
Instead, you should fellowship.
We are to connect with other believers through fellowship.
Most people mistakenly believe "to fellowship" means to spend time together.
However, for fellowship to have full bonding power, it does not mean just socializing together.
The word for "fellowship" in Greek means "to hold something in common."
One of those bonds of commonality is the indwelling of the Spirit. More tangibly, it means how a man and wife speaks to one another should be through spiritual truths.
Sadly, most couples don't practice the wisdom behind this verse.
what they do instead
Most couples, including most Christian couples, let their conversation be bogged down in "human wisdom."
The practical. The pragmatic. The daily news. The updates on work and the kids.
This is a deadly trap.
Our conversations should include the opposite of such worldly topics.
Something changes when you season your conversations with spiritual truths that both of you understand.
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A great intimacy builds when a husband and wife exchange truthfulness that comes from the Spirit.
They can speak of things that a "natural" or ungenerated person -- themselves before they were regenerated -- cannot understand.
It's like when a couple has an "inside joke."
Each time they reference it, they grow closer. They know what they are talking about because it contains a deeper meaning.
So it is within a marriage.
For Christians, this spiritual truth is a conviction of the truth behind Scriptures. Often it can be a thematic verse or a personally meaningful verse that incorporates their Christ-centered worldview.
The absence of having this intimate shorthand is one of many reasons why there is often a Communication Barrier Between the Unequally Yoked
Spend time to ensure you are speaking to one another a spiritual truth from your own personal reading of Scripture.
What is a spiritual truth you would like to share with your spouse?
It can be an active reflection on:
- What has God revealed about Himself recently?
- How has Jesus become more real and precious and magnified to you?
- How have you thought about recent events in the world through God's wisdom?
- Share with one another the spiritual word you each just reflected on
- Discuss how it does or doesn't help you to experience fellowship
- If it doesn't, spend a little time exploring why
- Thank God for revealing His word and His spiritual wisdom
- Ask for eyes and ears to open further to know the true Gospel of grace by faith alone
- Invite the Holy Spirit to work in the next 40 days so you have additional wisdom to share
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Most couples miss this part of their conversation....even if they talk everyday about "stuff" going on in their life.— Jonah Jeremiah | The Marriage Habit (@marriagehabit) April 12, 2023
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